Sunday, May 23, 2010

Three Blind Mice

There is a spot on each of your retinas where the optic nerve connects. This spot has no rods and no cones and hence is unable to interpret light that falls on it, rendering you blind to the corresponding point in your field of vision. These are not the blind spots I am about to talk about.

Each of us has behaviours and attitudes that we aren't aware we possess (Google "Johari Window"). These are the undercurrents of our lives that cause reactions we don't always understand; they aren't necessarily bad things but they easily can be. Certainly they can be uncomfortable to deal with when we are presented with them.

How do we know what we don't know? Ask someone you trust.

Really, really trust.

They are going to hold up a mirror to your soul and you may not like what you see. They may tell you that your attitude to drinking verges on alcoholism. Or that you seem to have an uncanny knack for butting in to everyone's conversations. Or that you are stifling your child's development by closing them off from the world. Or that you are too generous in offering to help others. Or that your behaviour is so flirtatious that you give people the wrong impression.

Welcome to the Abyss.

If you can accept what this person tells you (and remember that they are taking a bigger risk than you in telling you the truth) then you have a chance to learn more about yourself and grow as a person. If you can't, I recommend buying a good pair of sunglasses to disguise the problem with your eyes.

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